|I’ll help you with:
- Are you growing farther apart every day?
Are mistakes or past grudges keeping you from having
the relationship you want?
- Your relationship isn’t going anywhere, it feels stale and dull.
You’re simply co-existing in the same house, but
never really connecting.
Your sense of fun and joy in each other has been
replaced by resignation and complacency
Your partner seems upset, but when you ask,
“What’s wrong?” they reply “Nothing”.
- Are you having the same fight, over and over again?
- Are other commitments taking priority over your marriage?
These are some of the warning signs that your relationship needs help. The longer you wait, the harder it is to make the changes for improvement.
Counseling is valuable in the following ways:
- You’ll learn to identify destructive and unproductive patterns of relating.
- You practice and strengthen new, better ways to relate
- Clarify the kind of life you want to build together.
- Become the kind of partner you want to be.
- Improve your reaction to problems.
Good relationships don’t just happen. They require time and effort and a skill set that you may never have been taught. Fortunately, you can identify what is missing and learn these skills, whether you come alone to counseling or your partner comes with you.
How does it work?
- I listen carefully to what each of you want and what you think is missing from your relationship,
- I also assess what resources you have to putting your relationship back on track.
- If I think there are additional goals that could benefit you, I’ll bring them to your attention and then you can decide whether my recommendation has value for you or not.
- I avoid taking sides,
- I’ll teach you more effective communication tools
- I’ll give you homework to integrate what you learn in our sessions.
If you are on the verge of separating or considering divorce, you owe it to yourself for the time and energy you have put into your relationship, to discover what happened, and what you can do about it now.
If you don’t, you are destined to make the same mistakes again in a new relationship.
Focus on changing yourself rather than changing your partner.
Very few people want to focus on improving their own behavior t’s more common to build a strong case for why your partner should do the improving. But you can’t change your partner. You can only change yourself.
"Thanks to your expertise, my wife and I now problem-solve together, instead of playing the “I’m right, you’re wrong” game. We still have our disagreements, but using the methods you taught us, we’re able to work them out."- C.G.